Staying Married for the Sake of Naomi

Someone sent this to me by a cousin in the US..... but it is hard to do.
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Hi Elizabeth,

I'm against staying married for the children, no matter what their age. It's easier to do it when they are younger rather than older (say grown adults, even older teens) because they will be angry more than likely with both of you for getting an annulment. Just like the case of Sugus and his brothers. Don't they hate their father a lot? There are just so many reasons to NOT stay married for the sake of the children. In a sense it's like saying there's nothing wrong with the marriage, when there really is. So it's deceiving in a way to them, only for them to find out later in life, that you only stayed together for them. Hence, the angryness because they could feel that you both lied and betrayed them.

If you can get along now for the sake of the children, then there should be no problem in you getting along and co-parenting her during the separation period. They'll adjust, children are very resilient beings. It'll take some time but they'll get used to the separation, etc. It's better to do it now, than later when it'll be harder to deal with and explain to the child God bless.

A Friend

P.S. How could you respect someone who married you for money? For convenience, for comfort, for show, for wrong beliefs. for peer and community pressure? If not, why is he not providing; living in your ancestral house, using your inheritance, your car, and having you pay for his debts and your child's needs.

Sugus is a weed among the wheat....

Remember this - the book that led you to misery...
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